A little history, then my problem…

I am currently in the midst of a vicious divorce. My wife was unfaithful (lets leave it at that), I attempted marriage counseling, she refused to stop seeing her boyfriend. I filed for a no fault divorce. At the time, she had possesion of the children, and I was stopping by to see them or talking to them by phone everyday. I visited them when she allowed, a situation which she used to her advantage, denying me visitation when she felt like it. When i told her I was filing for divorce, she attempted to kill herself. Her mother took the children to the Emergency room at 2 in the morning.

Sorry, I have three children, a 9 year old girl, and 8 year old boy, and a 3 year old boy. I took possession of them in the ER and they stayed with me for three days. Her mother requested that she have a visitation, so I said okay and dropped them off for one. When i returned to pick them up, she refused to give them to me, and had the police barr me from the property. She has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and has all manner of people living in the house, including underage delinquents and drug dealers. I picked up the children one day to take them for ice cream, and 10 minutes after leaving with them, the police were at my door, stating that she told them I had kidnapped the children.

We went to the police station, on the way, she attempted to ram my car with hers, and while INSIDE the police station, she threatened to kill me, in front of the officer. She was arrested, charged with Domestic Violence, Threats, and I was told to take my children home. I was scared enough that I told my mother, who was visiting from out of state, to take the children on a small vacation for a few weeks, until either we went to court, or the children had to go to school. I was in contact by telephone EVERYDAY they were away. Their mother NEVER made any attempt to speak to or contact them or me for three weeks. I testified to all of this during the Temporary Orders hearing, in front of a female judge (I know the deck was stacked against me).

My ex was given our house, with all contents, the new car, possession of the children, $660 in child support, and 400 in Spousal support.

Now, my problem. I picked up my children for my bi weekly visitation on Friday. My 8 year old son was in the back seat talking to his sister about “Mommy and her drugs”. When we got to my house, I sat him down and questioned him about this. He proceeded to describe Mommy’s water pipe, and the smell, “You know, that pot smell…” He stated that he has seen the paraphernalia, and even a, “…little box, with some brown stuff in it, Mommy keeps it in the car…” I was so upset, I almost cried. Okay, I DID cry.

I called Child Protective Services and made a report. My question is, has anyone else had any similar experiences with the Family Court in Texas? Is there ANYTHING I can do? It has been suggested that I hire a Private Investigator, but my funds are limited, as she is getting half my paycheck. I would appreciate any help you could offer.